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Wednesday Wellness: How To Overcome Regret?

Wednesday Wellness How To Overcome Regret

I used to get so plagued by choices I would make that I wish I’d never have. Regret used to eat at me so much until one day I realized I have the power to turn it into something much more positive than I could ever imagine.

You see, regrets are all about control. Control we absolutely cannot attain when wanting to go back in time and change things. And when we can’t, whatsoever get back to that time and place to get a re-do we get anxious, depressed, all sorts of negative effects weigh out on us.

Did you know with that stress and depression come several physical side effects? Like headaches, tension/pain, fatigue, sleep issues, and those are just naming a few. Point is, if regret leads to deteriorating our minds and bodies, it must not be good for us. We must be drawing out the wrong emotions from our choices and experiences.

When we choose to look at these choices as lessons and blessings in disguise, that’s when we start to grow and in most cases, heal.

“In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you”
-Andrea Dykstra

Everything happens for a reason. It sounds so cliche but it’s the honest truth. In every single moment, whether we like it or not, there’s a lesson to be learned. Identify the weak parts in you that you can improve. Stop and reflect on your reactions that this issue caused. Could you adjust this in any way to better yourself? To better your interactions? To keep your peace?

Could this situation be teaching you more patience? Maybe more kindness? Or even time to let go?

When unfortunate events happen that make you feel powerless, remember you could have been anywhere else and something far worse could have happened. For, again, whatever reason you were destined to be there at that very moment. Life happens, it’s up to us to draw out the lessons in each situation and moment.

Life is made up of moments we will never get back. Ever. Don’t just stop at ‘everything happens for a reason…’ I refuse to stay there. Go deeper, draw out the lessons that are buried underneath the surface. Be dedicated in learning and growing your spirit and mind. Only then will regrets turn into blessings in disguise that serve you well and don’t keep you trapped in regret.

Remember, it’s never a waste of time if you learned something.

How do you deal with regretful emotions?

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  • Reply
    Leslie Renteria
    March 15, 2017 at 6:11 pm

    I completely agree with this approach. I felt a lot of regret for not being more responsible when I found out I was pregnant at such a young age and lost scholarship opportunities. However, now that my daughter is 16, I am proud that I have always kept open communication with her. I have always allowed her to tell me anything (even if I didn’t care to hear it) and we’ve developed trust along the way. She knows whatever the issue, we will work it out and most importantly I will always be honest. My point is that I wanted a better relationship early on with my daughter. I didn’t want to wait until after the fact, like my mother and I did to have a great relationship. Establishing an open communication, trust, and honesty early on with my daughter has completely paid off. She’s responsible and knows her parents are the correct source of information and that she can count on us to help her resolve any concerns along the way.

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      March 16, 2017 at 8:03 am

      That is so awesome Leslie! I love the relationship you and Faith have. I think hindsight really is 20/20 and in the moment you felt irresponsible but as time goes by we see how God had something much greater for us. You may not have been the mom you are now had you had her much later in life. I think she is a blessing and you are an amazing mom! Thanks for reading and sharing your take on this!

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